What’s in a name?

NAME.

noun.
a word or a combination of words by which a person, place, or thing, a body or class, or any object of thought is designated, called, or known.

Your name is you. You are your name.

Your name is a part of your identity. It is how the world describes you. It is something that connects you to other people.

Your name is pretty darn important. But what if you don’t like it?

Growing up I had a last name that I no longer feel a part of. It is not something that really belongs to me, or maybe I do not belong to it.

I love my first name. It was the name my mum gave me, and one that I believe suits the person I am. It grew up with me, and at 23, it is part of me. This will never change. However, my middle and last name are not me. They do not fit me. They do not represent the person I am today, and the person I want to be from this day forward.

These two names, Ann and McMillan, are no longer for me. They are from a family that is not mine. They may be technically family, but that is not what makes a family. To me, my family is my mum, my sister and two brothers. To me, these four people mean the world. We grew up together, just the five of us. We have gone through good times, and we have gone through bad. They have been my lifeline in times when I thought I couldn’t go on. They saved me when I needed saving, and made me laugh when I needed cheering up. These four people are the only people I call family.

For a long time now, we have talked about changing our name. My mum has one last name, and we have a different. But neither of these names mean anything to us. They are not who we are meant to be. We are own people and it is time that our name reflected this. Changing our middle and last name is a process we have thought long and hard about, and we feel strongly about this change.

But, this is more than just a name change. This is a fresh start. To me, it is a chance to start over again. It is a chance to leave the past in the past and become the people, and the family we were supposed to be.

This means more to me than most will understand, but me and my little family understand the importance, and that is all that really matters.

Big love,

Alisha Ceit Iver.

6 thoughts on “What’s in a name?

  1. What a lovely post! Something wouldn’t think to talk about but so so lovely! I agree too my sister has a different surname but doesn’t change her being my sister!
    I hated my name growing up but I’ve embraced it with age! Hell yes to this! Fab work lovely!xx

  2. I’ve personally thought about changing my first name, because “Georgina” is my full name but “Georgie” is what almost everyone has called me, even my family. It took me a long time to warm up to the name and I actually hated it, but it really grew on me. Georgie is the person I am today.

    People change their names for different reasons – I even had a friend change his name because it was too difficult to spell. But what is most important is that your name is your identity, and if you feel like your name doesn’t fit you, you should definitely consider the option of changing it.

    If you feel no connection to your current last name, then it’s the right decision. You should be comfortable with your name. I’ve had friends who felt displeased with their last name after experiencing abuse from their fathers, and that makes sense too. We all have a choice 🙂

  3. This is an amazing post! I completely understand, but sadly I’m a jr. so my entire name is the exact same as my dads 😬😂😅. Oh well ¯_(ツ)_/¯.

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