Whats in a name - swati rai

What’s in a name?

NAME.

noun.
a word or a combination of words by which a person, place, or thing, a body or class, or any object of thought is designated, called, or known.

Your name is you. You are your name.

Your name is a part of your identity. It is how the world describes you. It is something that connects you to other people.

Your name is pretty darn important. But what if you don’t like it?

Growing up I had a last name that I no longer feel a part of. It is not something that really belongs to me, or maybe I do not belong to it.

I love my first name. It was the name my mum gave me, and one that I believe suits the person I am. It grew up with me, and at 23, it is part of me. This will never change. However, my middle and last name are not me. They do not fit me. They do not represent the person I am today, and the person I want to be from this day forward.

These two names, Ann and McMillan, are no longer for me. They are from a family that is not mine. They may be technically family, but that is not what makes a family. To me, my family is my mum, my sister and two brothers. To me, these four people mean the world. We grew up together, just the five of us. We have gone through good times, and we have gone through bad. They have been my lifeline in times when I thought I couldn’t go on. They saved me when I needed saving, and made me laugh when I needed cheering up. These four people are the only people I call family.

For a long time now, we have talked about changing our name. My mum has one last name, and we have a different. But neither of these names mean anything to us. They are not who we are meant to be. We are own people and it is time that our name reflected this. Changing our middle and last name is a process we have thought long and hard about, and we feel strongly about this change.

But, this is more than just a name change. This is a fresh start. To me, it is a chance to start over again. It is a chance to leave the past in the past and become the people, and the family we were supposed to be.

This means more to me than most will understand, but me and my little family understand the importance, and that is all that really matters.

Big love,

Alisha Ceit Iver.

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